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Are You Underemployed?

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Friday, September 16th, 2011 10:35 am
No. You're not. You're employed. I don't mean to say, be grateful for any job because so many other people have none. I don't want you to justify your experience in life by comparing yourself to others and living the "it could be so much worse" mentality. There's no power or joy in that kind of thinking. Instead, how about this. How about considering that where you are is where you are. Maybe not "where you're meant to be" because, hello, who knows where you're really supposed to be? Are you God? Just because something feels right doesn't mean it is right. It just might be more comfortable or more in line with your expectations. Wherever you are I can guarantee you this, there is something to be learned and there is something good to be done there. If you go around thinking a job is beneath you or that you are underemployed, not only will you lose the chance to gain what you can from the experience, but you will insult all those around you. In my second week… Click here for the rest of the post

You don’t know Diddly, Squat or Shineola

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Saturday, September 3rd, 2011 8:40 am
What do you know and how do you know it? For those of you who have been to my workshops, Ima is a familiar character. Participants pass Ima around and tell me about her based on what little they know. As they pass her around the room, I give Ima different labels...Tea Party Member, Alcoholic, CEO, Single Mother, Ridiculously Rich, Homeless, Rhodes Scholar, Liberal, Lesbian, Heroin Addict, Thin, Obese, High School Dropout... You get the idea. It's interesting to watch people's faces as they hear the labels. Some descriptors even cause participants to hold Ima at arm's length. And she's just a rock. The point of the exercise is, labels tell us nothing. They may associate a person with a group. And that group may have certain common stereotypes. Still, you know nothing about a person because you've heard of, read about or previously encountered another individual with similar characteristics. The only way to know someone is to...here it is, big revelation...get to know them! So...participants in my presentations learn to ask fact-gathering, relationship-building questions until they learn Ima's true… Click here for the rest of the post

Family Friday–Teaching the Power of an Apology

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Friday, July 22nd, 2011 3:34 pm
Elton John was right, Sorry is the Hardest Word. It doesn't have to be if we teach our children the power of a sincere apology. As mentioned previously, I'm a big fan of the Parenting with Love and Logic approach, but there's one area where I disagree a bit and that's their recommendation that we don't say, "I'm sorry" when we hear our children's tales of woe. I understand the intent. That apology can be the sound of the rotors starting on the Helicopter Parent's flight to the rescue. But it can also be the words of a sympathetic heart that has just listened and understood the discomfort of another. I'm pretty comfortable modeling that kind of behavior. Of course, there are many times I'm Sorry can be overstated or imply an attempt to accept responsibility or blame that we shoulder only because we need help with boundaries...but that is not what we're talking about here today. It's just really difficult for many adults to apologize. No one helped them understand its importance as a child. In fact, they may… Click here for the rest of the post

Who is in Charge of You?

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Tuesday, June 7th, 2011 8:20 am
"You are not the boss of me!" My nephew, Michael, used to use that line clarify boundaries for anyone in the family who suggested anything to him. His declaration has become a favorite family quote. It also begs the question, "so who is." I've just started reading a new book--Finding Meaning In The Second Half Of Life, by Hames Hollis, PhD. Just 20 pages into it, I'd already had some significant revelations. If Hollis keeps delivering at this pace, I'm going to have to give up and by the workbook so I can remember all my ah ha moments. Here's what struck me on page 23: We are obliged to acknowledge that the only person who is consistently present, in every scene of that long-running drama we call our life, is ourselves. It stands to reason then, that we might bear some responsibility for how this play, or soap opera, is turning out. How do you handle the responsibility of being the boss of you? What kind of boss are you of your inner self? Do you nurture and mentor,… Click here for the rest of the post

Family Friday–What’s Your Parenting Vision

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Friday, May 13th, 2011 6:00 am
Family Friday... On Fridays, I’ll share some thoughts on what being family means. Occasionally, my children and husband may contribute. I am not a family therapist. This is merely a glimpse into how I live out the roles that mean the most to me with the hope that you might find some value here. Let me know what you think. Where’s your parenting vision? At the times I felt completely overwhelmed by the responsibility of raising humans who were catching or passing me in height, I used to comfort myself by remembering them as the tiny, snuggly humans they had once been. I’d pull to mind all sorts of tender memories of “the good old days.”   How Hilarious. If my memory didn’t have such cleverly installed filters, I would have remembered times they stomped indignantly away from me or treated my company with disdain, even at age two.   That behavior happens because, little or big, we’re all just human. Our parenting prowess doesn’t have nearly as much (or little) influence as we imagine.   The danger in times… Click here for the rest of the post