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A Change of Heart

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Saturday, February 14th, 2015 9:12 am
It is ironic that on this day of all days, I woke up so greatly disappointed in my own heart. It functions well enough. It would probably be improved by aerobic conditioning. But what part of me wouldn’t? No. This was deeper. It was the dawn of my consciousness today—in that gray moment of the morning before my brain chatter commences—when I realized the ways in which my heart has changed for the worse. In the book What Alice Forgot, a woman on the brink of her 40th birthday falls and hits her head. She wakes up certain that she is 29, with absolutely no recollection of the events of the past decade. Her amnesia allows the reader to see Alice respond to her 40-year-old world as her 29-year-old self. She is madly in love with her husband—who 40-year-old Alice is divorcing. She is so happy to see her next-door neighbor—with whom 40-year-old Alice no longer speaks. And she longs for a moment to get her bearings—but 40-year-old Alice fills every waking moment with manic micro management. Maybe 29-year-old… Click here for the rest of the post

Are You Trainable?

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Friday, February 3rd, 2012 5:56 pm
Well of course you are! But do you welcome the opportunities as they arise? Having our minds stretched makes a bit room for more information, but that doesn't often happen for many of us because stretching hurts. Here are some simple steps to make the most of each learning opportunity. Remember that Significant Learning Opportunities, as Jim Fay calls them, are often wrapped up in times we'd rather avoid...accidents, failures, broken relationships...but if we allow those times to be something we simply survive, we never harvest the lesson and allow ourselves to grow from them. Look for some of the most significant opportunities to come from people who irritate you. The thing that irritates you in them is likely a strong trait you carry as well (we'll get into all the egoesque theory in that another day...feel free to use egoesque...I kind of like it). Turn off your filter and listen to understand. In a horrible moment, don't say something chirpy like, "Boy, oh boy are we going to look back and laugh at what we learned today!" People… Click here for the rest of the post

What You See is What You Get!

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Friday, December 30th, 2011 10:46 am
My top ten thoughts moving into the new year... If what you see is bleak and discouraging, fix it. It will take work and patience...a lot of it. Sometimes your efforts don't pay off in the ways you expect or as quickly as you'd like. This used to be less of a surprise to people, but then we became a society conditioned for immediate gratification and ease of operation. So make this a year for less whining and more working. If you want to see more kindness, more love, more patience...then practice it. I can't tell you how much time I've wasted wishing a situation would improve without first working to improve myself. See number one. If you don't like what you see everyday and option number one isn't working, see it differently. Maybe you've conditioned yourself to focus on the negative in a situation or a soul. Changing your perspective may even mean you see another person's view. (Yikes...that sounds so uncomfortable and awkward. And what if it means I wasn't completely right?) So go find a new view.… Click here for the rest of the post

Wherever You Go, There You Are

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Tuesday, December 6th, 2011 8:45 am
I'm back! My adventure selling cars stretched from August 29th to November 30th. It was a lifetime and it was a blink. So it is with most of the experiences in our lives--whether we're attempting to cling to each joyful moment, or find our way out of dark and heavy times. It all passes. Many friends have anticipated hearing what I experienced in the past 90 days. Others are sure this was all research for a book on management styles. The fact is, I'm not sure where to begin.  I have to sort through what may be relevant to you and what may require you to have "been there" to understand...like the night I fell in a hole showing two students from China a Nissan Maxima and seriously sprained my ankle, which resulted in being whisked away for a drug test... On a personal level, I learned (or relearned, as I believe we all know it to be true) that when I am true to myself, I am my best. When I try to "improve" according to others standards, I… Click here for the rest of the post

Good times. Bad times. What’s the difference?

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Wednesday, July 20th, 2011 11:56 am
When some little good thing happens in your life, do you celebrate? Do you say to yourself, "I can't believe how many good things happen to me! I am so fortunate!!" I ask because I think many of us process setbacks by adding them to a long list of Bad Stuff That's Happened to Me that we quickly recite to our wounded spirits. We offer ourselves pity. We rant, "I sure as hell didn't need THIS right now!" Or, as I'm known to say, "I didn't need another character-building experience, thank you very much." If we objectively charted the moments of our days, we would find the good outnumber the bad. We just forget to celebrate the good with the same energy we expend on our frustrations. If you allow bad news, difficult times or disappointment to send you back to your cave to lick your wounds...or to a friend to commiserate with you and validate how bad you have it...you will waste a lot of time. Scott Peck said it best: Life is difficult. When a basketball player misses… Click here for the rest of the post