Archive for the ‘ Civil Behavior ’ Category

Five Steps toward Peaceful Political Conversations

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Tuesday, October 28th, 2014 8:45 am
It's crunch time in campaign season. Sorting the mail, reading the paper or watching cable television leaves one no doubt that we're weeks away from an election. To avoid the lingering nastiness of the political machine, I can throw away unwanted mail, skip the print ads and turn off the tv. But what if the talking points and misinformation are coming at me in the workplace or the coffee shop? Here are some simple steps to seek peace in the middle of all the ruckus and even, just possibly, to gain understanding. 1. Give yourself a go-to phrase. Mine is "That's an interesting perspective." The viewpoints to which we cling are only one perspective. They may hold elements of fact and truth, but none of us has the corner on the whole truth. When I hear myself say that phrase out loud, it reminds me that my next step is to embrace my own silence. I don't waste energy arguing or even agreeing, which creates its own like-minded frenzy. I am working to let go of contentious conversational threads before… Click here for the rest of the post

What You See is What You Get!

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Friday, December 30th, 2011 10:46 am
My top ten thoughts moving into the new year... If what you see is bleak and discouraging, fix it. It will take work and patience...a lot of it. Sometimes your efforts don't pay off in the ways you expect or as quickly as you'd like. This used to be less of a surprise to people, but then we became a society conditioned for immediate gratification and ease of operation. So make this a year for less whining and more working. If you want to see more kindness, more love, more patience...then practice it. I can't tell you how much time I've wasted wishing a situation would improve without first working to improve myself. See number one. If you don't like what you see everyday and option number one isn't working, see it differently. Maybe you've conditioned yourself to focus on the negative in a situation or a soul. Changing your perspective may even mean you see another person's view. (Yikes...that sounds so uncomfortable and awkward. And what if it means I wasn't completely right?) So go find a new view.… Click here for the rest of the post

When People Bug the Crap Out of You

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Thursday, July 14th, 2011 10:54 am
Did Mimi just say "crap" in a headline? Yes indeed. I'm having one significant learning opportunity after another today, and why not be perfectly honest about it? There are people in my life who really bug me. Bill Dorman wrote about the types of coworkers and leaders who can be especially irritating. Just reading his list brought to mind immediate examples of those who manipulate meetings, seek the spotlight and have no idea how to effectively communicate without injecting drama or personal issues. I can even see how I might fall into the irritant role now and then. *gasp* I know...just when you thought I was practically perfect in every way. Here's where I am far from perfect--exercising patience with people who bug me. I have to say, I just want to squish them and move on. How's that for being a channel of goodness? Here's the distinction: if I don't interact with a "bugger" regularly, I am much more mature and professional in my response. I act just like a person who teaches other people how to get along.… Click here for the rest of the post

Happy Interdependence Day

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Sunday, July 3rd, 2011 8:52 am
This post was originally published on July 3, 2008. My family has been watching the HBO series John Adams on DVD. It seemed quite fitting that last night, on the eve of the Fourth of July, we were watching the episode regarding the development of the Declaration of Independence. In remembering those months in 1776, there is more to be gained than just a refresher on the principles that led to the country’s creation. While casting a new mold for a free and independent country, the value of civility and interdependence was also revealed. Think how many different perspectives were gathered in the Second Continental Congress in Philadelphia—certainly as many as the 56 participants. And think of the consensus building required to fully and fairly represent the 13 colonies from which they were appointed, much less to unanimously call for a new and independent union. Among those men, there was great argument, oratory and tireless debate, but there was also an abiding respect and decorum that allowed them to honor one another’s perspectives. I think there is a great lesson there.… Click here for the rest of the post

How to Honor Memorial Day

Posted by Mimi Meredith at Monday, May 30th, 2011 10:18 am
I've been thinking a lot lately about the men and women who serve in the Armed Forces. I've wondered what it must have felt like to be one of the Navy Seals who raided the Bin Laden compound. I did not feel elated over the death of Osama Bin Laden--in fact, I had a very heavy heart that night. But I am grateful for the skill, the courage and the leadership exemplified by those who were part of that operation. I've been thinking about Captain Dan Sundberg. He's one of my favorite new friends. He happens to be engaged to my niece, Laura Secor. Dan and Laura last July Dan is an Army Captain with the 10th Mountain Division. In March, he deployed to the Zharay District of the Kandahar Province, Afghanistan, where he is stationed with the 4-25 Field Artillery in Ghundy Ghar. Dan's letters, which my niece shares, give a glimpse into his life there...everything from his appreciation for the history of the area (the written history goes back 2,000 years. They are located on a hill… Click here for the rest of the post